""What Can I Even Talk About in Therapy?"

"What Can I Even Talk About in Therapy?"

“So... what do I even say when I get there?”

If you've ever booked a therapy session and then felt a wave of panic thinking, "What am I supposed to talk about?" — you're not alone.

Therapy doesn’t come with a script. And at Messy Bun Therapy, we don’t expect you to show up with one.

Whether you're brand new to therapy or returning after a break, it can feel awkward not knowing where to start. But here’s the truth: you can talk about anything. Seriously. No topic is off limits. If it helps remember confidentiality, nothing you say leaves our time together.

💬 You can talk about:

• The thing that made you cry in the car yesterday
• Why you feel so exhausted, even when nothing seems “wrong”
• How your friendships have felt off lately
• Feeling angry when you think you’re “supposed to” feel grateful
• Your relationship with your body, especially if it’s changed
• The mental load that no one else seems to notice
• Sex, intimacy, or the total lack of it
• The identity shift you didn’t expect to hit so hard
• Fears around motherhood, not becoming a mother, or being somewhere in between
• Badass Successes you’ve had. Get a promotion at work?  Set a boundary with a parent? Left an unhealthy relationship?  It ALL deserves to be celebrated!
• Finding Joy in Small Moments

🧠 Therapy Is a Space For:

• Exploration — You don’t have to have the “right” words. Let's walk through the mess.
• Validation — What you're feeling is real, even if you can’t explain it yet.
• Growth — Therapy helps untangle the thoughts that keep you stuck.
• Rest — Sometimes, it’s the only hour of the week that’s truly yours.

🙋‍♀️ Still Not Sure Where to Start?

Try beginning with:

• “I’ve been feeling ___ but I’m not sure why.”
• “There’s this one thing I keep thinking about…”
• “I don’t really know what to say” This is totally normal!

Or even: “I’m not sure why I’m here, but I know I need something to change because the mess is overwhelming me.”

And that’s more than enough.

At Messy Bun Therapy...

We specialize in holding space for women in the thick of the mess of life — identity shifts, transitions, postpartum fog, infertility, anxiety, low-key (okay sometimes high-key) burnout… all of it. You don’t need a diagnosis to be heard, there is no diagnosis that encompasses “mess” or “life just sucks right now.” You just need to show up as you are.

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